DIALOGUE JOURNALS:
A MENTOR GROWTH TOOL
By Barry Sweeny, copyright 1995
During my years as a mentor program coordinator
I came to feel that of all the forms of interaction with mentors,
my favorite was the reflection and "conversation" which
occured through the mentor "dialogue journals" which
some of the mentors in our program kept. Dialogue journals became
my favorite interaction because they revealed so much about the
process of mentoring and the evolution that mentors must undergo
as they learn the "craft" of the mentor. What follows
is a description of the dialogue journal, how it functions, and
some of what the use of such journals has revealed about mentor
growth.
MENTOR-COORDINATOR COMMUNICATIONS
While the purpose of the mentor program that I coordinated was
to develop the new professionals which our school district employed,
the primary activity that I engaged in as coordinator was the
development of the mentors. In fact, I often have described the
role of mentor program coordinator as one of "a mentor to
the mentors". Serving as a mentor of mentors, however, is
a trickier task then one might realize. How does a mentor coordinator
promote mentor development when most of the actual work of mentoring
a new teacher is quite "invisible" to those outside
of the mentoring pair? I found that to help mentors grow I needed
to know their work pretty intimately and yet, much of the work
a mentor does requires private conversation, a confidentiality,
and a "safe setting" in which to try out new skills
and ideas.
As coordinator, I found that I needed to establish the same safe,
confidential relationship with mentors to foster their sharing
with me the trials and joys which mentors experience. The necessary
level of sharing can only result from frequent communications
between coordinator and mentor and that, I found, had to be built
into the expectations for mentoring.
CHOOSING A COMMUNICATION LINK
In my experience, once stated, the expectation of communication
between the mentor and coordinator has never become an issue.
This acceptence makes sense because mentors understand that communication
with a coach is needed for mentors to grow. As a mentor program
coordinator, however, I did find that the different learning preferences
of each mentor required the use of different approaches to communication
with the mentors. Some mentors prefer to interact in personal
meetings, others like telephone conversation, and still other
mentors will choose to keep a journal because it is a tool and
a discipline which promotes increased reflection. In the mentor
program which I coordinated about one third of the mentors chose
to keep a journal.
HOW A DIALOGUE JOURNAL WORKS
When I decided to try the journal idea I purchased a series of
the cloth covered blank books which can be found in book stores
for about $5 or less. I supplied a book in the color of their
choice to those mentors who indicated an interest in a journal.
Mentors were asked to date each entry as if it were a diary and
they were asked to write only on one page and to leave the facing
page open. Mentors were asked to submit their journals about once
a quarter when I would read their ideas, concerns, and stories
and then write back to them on the facing page.
Mentors were told that they could write as little or as much as
they wished and that the focus of their writing was to be their
experiences and learning as a mentor. Further, I promised that
I would keep all the contents of the journals I read confidential
and that I would never criticize what was written. The quotations
from journals which follow in this article have all had individual
references removed and that the quotations are used with permission.
It has been fascinating to read these journals and to see mentoring
through all these different sets of eyes. What a priviledge to
share so closely in these mentors' experiences!
MENTOR GROWTH PATTERNS REVEALED
Of particular interest to me has been the strong similarities
in the feelings and the common patterns in the experiences which
many mentors have expressed through their journals. Unfortunately,
each mentor can rarely see these patterns in their own writing
as they are "too close" to it to be objective. When
I write back in a mentor's journal I try to help the mentor discover
these emerging patterns which tell the story of that mentor's
development. Here are some of the patterns I have discovered in
the mentoring process.
THE EARLY MONTHS OF MENTORING
Mentoring usually seems to go well during the first few months.
Proteges recognize how much they have to learn about their new
jobs and so they are more willing to defer to the mentor's judgement
and experience. The mentors feel very purposeful and appreciated
because they can share what they know and the proteges seem to
both need and appreciate what is offered.
Mentoring in the early months is often very time consuming but
it is not too hard. Typical topics begin with "Where is the
copier?" and range to "What curriculum must I follow?"
Naturally, mentoring seems to be going very well when the mentor
can predict the protege's questions and when the mentor knows
most of the answers. Mentor journals from these early months are
filled with comments such as the following:
"This work is really important! I see major steps taken
by my protege every week."
"Mentoring has proven to be lots of work, but I am pleased
at how much fun it is as well."
"I am glad I decided to become a mentor. I have learned as
much as my protege has."
THE MID-YEAR MENTORING "WALL"
Just as marathon runners report "hitting a wall" at
some point in a race, mentors often find a similar point is reached
in the mentoring process. This period of struggle often comes
near the end of the first semester, particularly if the classes
which the protege teaches are a semester long. Look at some of
the journal comments mentors have offered at the mid-year:
"Ever since Christmas I have been having difficulty doing
very much to help her. It's hard because I want to do more but
I'm not sure what to do."
"I am having self doubts. I can't tell what she needs right
now."
"I feel that I have become more of a friend than a mentor
recently. Maybe he doesn't need me as a mentor anymore."
As the protege gains the knowledge needed to accomplish basic
tasks he or she is not as likely to continue asking for the same
kind of help. Often the protege will also be asking fewer questions
or saving the questions rather than seeking out the mentor each
time. This may mean that mentoring pairs meet less frequently
and that they spend less informal time together, instead they
may make "appointments" to ensure that they can get
together.
MENTOR RELATIONSHIP TRANSITIONS
Whatever the changes are that mentors notice, these are natural
transitions which result from the protege mastering "the
easy stuff" and from developing more self confidence. If
a mentor gradually finds it harder to offer help, or if mentors
are asked fewer questions, this does NOT mean that the mentoring
is nearing the end of the relationship. It is more likely that
mentors are needed more in this phase of growth than ever before!
The changes that a mentor senses are probably happening because
the questions asked and the type of assistance that the protege
needs becomes more sophisticated and complex with time. What is
needed to respond appropriately is a shift in the mentor's role
to provide for new needs emerging in the protege.
An excellent example of the need for mentors to periodically refocus
their attention was offered in a mentor's journal. The mentor
had realized that the protege's questions had changed from only
asking "What do we teach next?" (a short term answer
is required) to asking "How can I fit all the curriculum
in before the end of the year?". Answering the more complex
question requires teaching the protege a decision making process
that is more difficult but which is useful over the long term.
What proteges must learn at this point, and what mentors must
begin to teach is how to work through complex problems, making
decisions in logical steps.
SOME MENTORING OPTIONS
If you have experienced a similar change in your interaction as
a mentor and protege pair you may find one of the following options
to be helpful:
1. Proteges often reach a point where they feel too embarassed
to keep asking questions. Often, proteges ask fewer specific questions
and instead just express concerns. This change will require that
you not wait for a question to respond to, but rather that you
"hear" the concern and read within it the "call
for help". Refer to the Stages of Concern component of the
Concerns Based Adoption Model (CBAM) for ideas on how to hear
and diagnose the needs implied by the concerns the protege expresses.
2. Perhaps the protege believes that you are tired of all the
questions or that you are too busy for the protege to keep "bugging"
you. You can put that concern to rest by saying something like:
"I enjoy discussing our work together so much. I hope
that you will continue to feel free to ask me any questions that
you think of." or,
"I am glad that you still feel free to ask me questions and
to discuss what we do in our work. I find our discussions so stimulating
that I find I am learning a lot too."
If neither of the above statements fit how you feel, just be direct
and ask...
"I have looked forward to meeting today. What questions
have you thought of recently?"
If that question does not provoke protege questions on which to
focus, try to be more specific.
"What have you been thinking about... (add topic mentor
suspects is an area of need)?"
As your protege develops, so also must your mentoring relationship
evolve and your mentoring style adjust to the needs of the protege.
While your role as a source of information will decrease, issues
of greater significance will emerge and your experience as an
educator will become a valuable resource to the protege.
See below for an example of how analysis of the content from a
year of writing in a dialogue journal has been used to provide
feed back to a mentor that really demonstrates the significant
growth this mentor-protege pair has experienced from their work
together.
EXAMPLE - SUMMARY FROM A MENTOR'S DIALOG
JOURNAL
By Barry Sweeny, who was the Mentor Program Coordinator in 1988-92
Dear Patti,
"I marvel at the great shifts and super growth
you both have experienced in this first year! I thought if I put
it in this form you could see yourselves from a new perspective.
Read & celebrate what you have accomplished! I quote from
your journal.
| DATE
IN YOUR JOURNAL |
YOU SAID... |
PRONOUNS |
ACTIONS |
| 10/23/89 - |
I need to... |
I |
need |
| |
I should... |
I |
should |
| |
My hardest task will be... |
My |
hardest task will be |
| |
My approach needs to... |
My |
approach needs to |
| |
Why do I always... |
I |
always do |
| 10/24 |
Neither of us opens up easily... |
us |
opens up easily |
| |
one of us has to... |
us |
has to |
| 11/14 |
I hope she and I can... |
I-she |
hope we can |
| 1/3/90 |
Alright now. I really want to... |
I |
want to |
| |
We have to... |
We |
have to |
| 2/??/90 |
I think there's alot more value... |
I |
think |
| |
Her students really need ... |
Her |
really need |
| |
I'd really like to... |
-I |
like to |
| |
I can observe... |
I |
can observe |
| 3/2 |
I think I found there's something I can... |
I |
found-can |
| |
At least I can... I can |
I |
can |
| 3/16 |
I told her that... |
I |
told |
| |
I think... |
I |
think |
| 4/2 |
Now she needs... |
She |
needs |
| |
I suggested that she... |
I-she |
suggested |
| |
So now I need to be patient... |
I |
need to be patient |
| 4/5 |
I'm talking with... |
I |
talking with |
| |
I found out that... |
I |
found out |
| |
I still want to help by listening... |
I |
help by listening |
| |
All I can do is be available... |
I'm |
available |
| |
I can be of some value... |
I'm |
valuable |
| 4/20 |
At last! She's starting to confide... |
She's |
starting to confide |
| |
We've discussed... |
we |
have discussed |
| 5/25 |
She and I discussed... |
she & I |
discussed |
| |
We're doing more special things... |
We |
are doing special things... |
| |
I invited... |
I |
invited |
| |
She will join us... |
She |
will join |
| |
I hope we can... |
I - we |
hope - can |
| 5/29 |
She and I touched base... |
She and I |
touched base |
| 6/1 |
We've been together... |
We |
have been together |
| 6/7 |
I gave her kids... |
I-ger |
gave her kids |
| |
Preparing & working as a team... |
team |
Preparing & working |
| |
We won the team trophy... |
we |
won |
| |
I like our accomplishments to be visible... |
I-our |
like |
| 6/8 |
I'm so pleased that... |
I |
am pleased |
| |
From now on I will remember... |
I |
will remember |
| |
|
|
|